Soul Inspirations: Thank you for not believing in me

Hey hey lovelies 

I suppose this is an odd thing to be grateful for, but it's the truth. Often we get disappointed or despondent when we realise people don't see our vision or see that said people are not on our side or in our court. It's a normal reaction from that perspective. 

The other day I had a similar situation where I was trying to argue my point and realised that this person in fact did not have my back and ultimately didn't believe that I was skilled or capable enough to actually just do that task at hand. On that day I was down and felt defeated. Lucky for me I have never been one wallow in self-pity for too long. 

Time and sleep are wonderful miracle workers. The next day when I woke up, a few thoughts occurred to me. Just because this person didn't I could do it, didn't mean that it was true. This person has a very controlling personality and ultimately believes if they can't do it themselves it's not really good enough. There is no trust. Yes initially I did take it personally, but other peoples issue are not about you!! It's their insecurities and things that they need to work through. 

Very few people can see your vision or what you are truly capable of, and that is okay. They don't need to for you to succeed or progress. 

I realised how blessed I was that my parents brought me up to be stronger than that. They taught to me think and dream outside of the box - even discard the box if need be. Go for it, even if you fail, at least you learn. Failure is a stepping stone to success anyway! and lastly to believe in yourself even others may not, because your dreams are worth pursuing and you are worthy either way. They taught me resilience to try, try and try again until I find what I am looking for. 

I learnt how to be strong and to keep finding the strength to make better choices and create a better life. I did before and can always do it again. 

I have created some amazing experiences for myself and I can do it again. 

People thought I was crazy when I got divorced, quit my job and moved to Thailand to become a teacher (I didn't have the first clue about teaching or living in an Eastern country!) yet I prevailed, googled and figured it out along the way. It wasn't always easy but it was worth it. 

It's the people that didn't believe in me that sometimes made me stronger and better! It's the moment when you realise that you actually can do it and you will do that empowers you. 

So you see.. they actually did me a favour and for that I am grateful that I had the strength to carry on and ultimately appreciate and love myself more for it. 

Giving up is so boring. It's ok to let things go and make a different choice. There is a big difference between letting go and giving up. Letting go frees you to try something else, giving up is beating yourself up and wallowing in self-pity. It's a perspective choice. 

So today lovelies, thank those who didn't see your potential and your brilliance. 

Shine anyway!! 

Much Love 

Chanzie 

xxx